Gifts - DB v 5LL

[Barrybran]

It's certainly possible my wife could see my previous gift-giving as manipulation given the "change their version of history" thing. I thought I'd ask as it seemed to challenge rather strongly what was widely believed here. It was interesting to read that Chapman supported the theories of 'doing what works' and 'patience' but refused to separate gifts from the other four languages.

I agree that anything I do right now would be viewed as pursuing. In saying that, I have no hesitation about doing something nice for my wife if I have a clear conscience about it. To me, constant gifts requires effort and that to me means pursuing.

Thanks for the answers guys. It's nice to read things that provoke thought.