I think I belong here....

[job]

What you've read reconfirms that you and your marriage are not the problem. This is all about him and he has a journey to make to grow up.

Hold on to those wonderful memories so that when you are feeling down or confused, pull them out and remember the good times. Don't drink from the pitcher of Kool-Aid that he may offer up to you...you didn't break him, you can't control him, nor can you cure him. He must figure things out from the time he was emotionally stunted and grow up from there.

This is your time to focus on you and your children. It is a time of growth and learning for you as well. I sorry you are going through this, but hope that when he completes his journey, he will want to return to you and your family as a mature man who is willing to do the hard and necessary work to make your marriage even better than pre-crisis.

[praying_in_GA]

Job,

I never thought about it that way. I'm sure his 'friendship' with his classmate doesn't help. Their texts seem innocent from the outside...unless you truly know my H. He is flirting with her. He found those butterflies we lost. Either way, thank you for your response. It makes a lot of sense. I will continue to be the person causing him confusion and just wait it out.

I stand for my marriage.

[praying_in_GA]

H has a job interview tomorrow!! Part time for now, full time this summer. This has been something weighing heavily on him so I hope it will help lift his spirits.

[praying_in_GA]

I will say this....going through marriage stress is good to my body. It causes me to workout like a fiend and lose weight I should have started shedding a year ago. Our first go around I lost the last 10 pounds I was trying to lose. This time I am already down 7 and I am working out daily. The other day H told me he knows how I can look when I put my mind to it so I won't have a problem finding someone else. Gee thanks! (no, really, thanks!!)

[job]

Pay his comment no attention at all. It's typical mlc lingo.

Continue moving forward.

[praying_in_GA]

Ugh! So, tonight I had a short fuze. I snapped at my son. H says "That's better. That's what I'm used to. You yelling at the kids. I'm glad you're finally getting it out. I know how hard this is for you."

Effff you!!!!! GAH!!! I am so fed up with his sanctimonious attitude. I'm done!

I took my ring off today as well. If he is going to go around town and school advertising he is single then why should I do around and pretend to be married.

I'm just so tired of it all.

[MrBond]

At that point, you should have stopped and apologized to your son. Tell him that he is not the reason why you got upset and give him a hug. In front of your H of course. That'll show him that he can't rattle you.

[job]

I agree w/Bond. Show your h the higher road by apologizing to your son (in front of your h).

BTW, it's time to start a new thread.