I am no longer in piecing so I thought I would move back over to here again!

Long story short, We have been married 8 years, with 3 young children. Got "no longer love you" bomb drop on Valentines day 2013. Since then, had MC for 3 months, lived in "limbo" over the summer, which ended with H moving out in the fall.

Then, he came to me saying he wanted to work on things again, that he was sure this time, and 100% committed. And his heart was into trying this time, and things would be different. And that we would leave our old marriage behind and start fresh.

The plan was to slowly wean him back into moving into the house again, and just date in the meantime, and do some counseling, and work on our marriage. It started out well. But come the new year he was pulling away again, becoming more distant.

On Valentines day, AGAIN, this year, he told me he didn't want to work on things anymore and he moved out. He is now renting a townhouse, and we are splitting custody of the kids 50/50.

I have consulted with a lawyer and we are starting a separation agreement. We have been butting heads over a lot of things lately, it seems. We can't seem to agree about much and just dealing with him has been causing me anxiety. I have been on stress leave at work since we separated. Dealing with all of this lawyer stuff, and all the separation details, is just causing me so much physical anxiety, heaving feeling in my chest all the time, can't sleep well, not always eating a lot, waking up at 4:00 every single morning! And I just don't have motivation to get out and do things.

Thanks for listening all, I will post more details shortly.

-CP

M: 8 yrs T:14
Twins:7 S:5
BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013
Mar/Apr/May: MC
June: "living in limbo"
Sept 12: H moves out
Oct 20: reconciling
Jan-Feb 2014:MC
Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.