Since I have quite a few years on you, I hope you will take this as what I have learned from people, nature, life, and Chrisiianity. I am a Christian also, and I have learned that you cannot force the other person to get their heart right with the Lord. You can't make them live godly. They may say all the right words you want to hear, but on,y God knows their heart. I was in Church doing and saying all the right things.........while I conducted my A. So, you can "demand" she talk to the pastor, but only she can open her heart to God.
"3. She can not have any contact with the OM ever again, which means either of the following a) he would have to give up all parental rights to the kid or b) she would have to give up the baby for adoption or c) she would have to give the kid to him and never see the baby again"
This is said out of deep pain and anger, but it is not very realistic. OM might give up parental rights and if you moved away, it might stop contact, IDK. But to even consider the last two would not be advisable. I believe it would destroy her and in the process, finish off any hope for your M.
Can you talk to your brother? I'm really glad you are getting away from her a few days. I hope she will not contact you, but I think she wil, b/c your are her life jacket at the moment.
Does your family know about the pregnancy? Does her family know?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
