Thanks so much Sandi. Hope is all I can have...and the ability to wait for quite some T.I.M.E. It is not dime store psychology...in fact, much mirrors what my IC has been telling me.
"Would she agree to a separation first, instead of jumping right into divorce? If she would, then it could give you that physical space from each other that she is wanting. Has she talked about her EA and how seriously she feels for OM or where this is headed? How much do you think this a revenge A? "
We separated for a month in January--in hindsight, it may have only allowed her "strong feelings" for OM to strengthen. Her EA is/was also a PA. She has not talked about where it's headed (he is married)...so unless he divorces his wife also... And I think much of it started as a revenge A...but it got out of hand for her. Some of that is mind-reading, I know, but I just don't have any answers without snooping around, which I won't do. I can't control her or her timeline, so I must focus on what I can control, and hope (there's that word) for my family to become whole again after I peel back some more painful layers.
