Redefining Hope and Success

[bluesgal]

Julie-I get what you are saying about the counseling. It seems like being a "standing" spouse is rather unheard of in the counseling world. I know my C wants me out of limboland someday and that requires a decision that I'm not ready to make and my H is unable to make.

I am still searching inside myself right now. I've never said "I'm standing for this marriage" or "I'm not going to take this and I am getting out". When I truly reflect, I am in as much limbo as H. Getting back to you. What I'm trying to say is that whatever your decision is: To stand or to get out, I think you should confidently tell your C and ask for guidance/support in that direction.

There is nothing weak or embarassing about giving your all to saving your M. And only you know that your H is not in a good place.