Not to confuse you Scorp but I feel that you should see the kids in your wife's town as per the current schedule. I agree with melissag that your wife doesn't have a right to tell you how you can parent the kids and there will be a time for this. I feel that now is not that time. You are trying to come to an agreement with your wife about 50/50 time, she's asked you some questions, you've responded and she's considering her answers. Don't rock the boat now. Keep to the schedule, earn her trust, get the parenting plan in place and then start making your own plans. As I mentioned in your last thread, you've got your lawyer in your back pocket if your wife doesn't play ball but for now, keep your wife happy and get that parenting plan in place!
The hard drive is a terrible idea and thankfully you see it now. If your wife wants those pictures, she'll ask for them. She no doubt has a camera on her phone so she'll be taking her own pictures anyway. By all means, help the kids celebrate your wife's birthday but make sure it is from them and not from you via them. As for how you reccognise her birthday, a simple "happy birthday. I hope you enjoy your day" by text will suffice.
I didn't see you here over the weekend so I hope you had a great one.
I'd been concerned about the timing of potentially rocking the boat. I also was thinking that if I don't stand up for myself and what I think our kids need then I'll still be viewed as a door mat. My kids love being home so it's hard to not bring them home. Besides that, it costs much more to stay in a hotel, eat out etc than it does to bring them home. It's also not a great way for my kids to spend their time being in a hotel rather than at home with somewhat of a regular family life.
My weekend was ok. I went out with a few buds and went to check out my old bass players new band. My friends are all encouraging to get out and start dating again but I'm not there at all.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS
