He'll huff and he'll puff - my intro

[ladylu]

Ugh it is Sunday night so on cue he caught me and said he wanted to talk and knows I don't want to talk at this time so he wants to call me tomorrow at work.

So some of the factors that make me think MLC versus regular WAS.
Doogie's mother and father divorced when he was very young.
He was raised day to day by his mom and stepdad. About two years ago after 40+years of marriage they are getting divorced. They are both in their 70s and are both using him. They have spent two years in courts fighting over which state should hear the divorce. It been ugly and I think this plus his own 17 year unhappy marriage has made him not willing to work at it.
He turned 50.
There have been work changes and he is not getting the respect he has earned.
Oldest kid is in 12th grade.
He has had behavioral changes in the last two years that have contributed to a lot of friction between us.
He is definitely very depressed.
I do feel like the whipping post in this and the scapegoat for all ills. I told him so before DB.
I think he has spent his life being the good one and putting his own feelings last. Now he won't take it anymore.
I do think in our culture divorce is promoted so much as the answer. I get to the point where I am like yes! Bring the divorce! I would be much happier not around you.
But I still think we are well matched, that the kids will have more to deal with. That this seems so temporary.
So that is why I feel it is up to him to file. I just don't feel like I would be true to myself to do so.