What's wrong with him? Really, WH? You ask that at this point?
From the sounds of it, depression or drug abuse. My bet is on the former because when I've seen it in the past, that's what it looked like.
He's not going to change anytime soon. This kind of behavior will continue for a long time after your son leaves for college most likely. I agree you need to have a conversation with the legal entities about what you can do for your son. Not because they'll be particularly helpful, but because your son needs to see you do that and not give up on it (him).
Over time, he'll start spending more time with you and less with his dad. And the more your son can assert control, the more he will. Be there for him, but please continue to be careful how much you put on his shoulders and how much you tell him. It can feed his anger, and that's not going to help your son in the long run.
AJ AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
