Another 180 will be when they go swimming all weekend. When we talked she expressed feeling trapped and controlled. I could not go and do things and she felt that I prevented her and the kids from going alone. In retrospect I am sure she felt this way, but I wanted to go with them during those times and felt terrible I couldn't but I can't express that to her.
So you said she will feel trapped? Ok, easy here...dont go, bite your tongue and find another activity.... Go see your friends, go hiking by yourself...
Should I offer to gather their swim stuff? I have trouble with exactly how much support to show or offer.
When she goes to a restaurant... Does she choose her dish? I guess she does...if she wants you there, SHE WILL LET YOU KNOW...
With a WAS the LBS has to wait until they express interest in them, is this correct? Correct, thats why its so important to be patient...she has to clean her side of the street....
When she talked about her thoughts of D and waiting for me to like her again it blew my mind. It has given me an irrational worry that she is waiting for me to pursue, but this can't be correct.
Ya ya ya....simple words.... We as DBing dont pursue even if she wants that... You want a WOMAN by your side, one that tells you how much they love to be around you...if after marrying her, building a family with her, being nice with her after she walk away, she needs more proof... She knows what you feel and if she doesnt, remain calm, one day she will ask you, meanwhile she is a WAS that likes your changes, doesnt like not being part of those changes (getting little by little out of the WAW fog) and wants to not recognize yet her part of responsability on this.... You feel happier with her approaching you, but she still being your drug... Give yourself and her more time, read WAW cases here and you will see that when they came out of the fog they did everything to go back with the LBS...
So far your W its just being cordial and stills trowing "blame" on you because she feels you didnt like her....let her show you something more, much more solid, she stills seems confussed and you want a woman with a clear idea that she wants to be with you...
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
