Wife came over to sign tax preparer’s paperwork and mail off for returns. She asked how much are we getting back. I told her the amount and that she would get 1500 to buy the washer/dryer for her apartment she said she needed. She started arguing that she should get half I explained my position, she walked out mad. Called her and told her I don’t want to argue about 400 dollars, I will split it evenly. She came back to the house (had forgot her mail) and told me crying “I contribute!” I told her I never thought she didn’t. She got in her car crying you have a lot to learn you just don’t understand. Tough day, not sure what else I’m supposed to fix since I’m the one who’s broke here and needs fixing. I am GAL and am making lots of positive changes it just sux when WAS comes back just to slam you some more. I have a bit of trouble with her and our business. I am an engineer working lots of hours. We have never agreed on how to run the business. One of my first 180’s is to agree with her on the business and not criticize and tell her she is doing well. I have given up her closing the business and in the past I have been a boob when it comes to our business she takes that over into our relationship. I used to go into telling mode on how she should run the business and that recently we should close it. As for closing the business it has not been doing well and she agrees, and that she will make more as a beautician than running a salon/AKA the business. Anyways I’ve given that up and don’t quite know what to do with it. The only contact she has made in a month is to tell me something about the business, and ask if I wanted to take a more active role. I told her I am giving her and I space right now and that I trust her totally with the business and she has doing a great job. Anyways I want trying to live by Sandi2’s 37 rules and mindful of rule #1.
