Hey guys, Thanks for coming by to help... I'm rushing off to work atm, but just a quick post for clarification:
"For instance, how did your S find out that there were diamonds coming from abroad?"
The kids took about 4 of the 5 or so phone calls that we received over a period of a couple of days about this from FedEX. FedEX people were so keen to get their money, and kept threatening to "send the diamonds back to NY". I took the last of the calls and as far as i knew, the diamonds went back.
"For instance, where are you when they yell to their dad in person or on the phone or when your S threatens to show up at a restaurant? "
I don't think S15 yelled at his dad either in person or on the phone; he just told him that he hated him for what he had done. S15 told his dad he was coming to the restaurant to speak to him (after XH refused to take his calls) via text. I didn't know about it till later.
How do they know abut his spending on restaurants, bars, cafes and holidays.... they see him - he sits outdoors at all of these places in our small village. His car is parked out the front of various establishments that we have to drive by to get to out house. He is in our faces. He also reports to them about all the great things he's doing (sailing, football memberships, golf, holidays, travel, cars, the food he eats [ribs, lobster, steak], etc etc). Sometimes the kids' grandparents spill the beans too "Oh, your dad will be back in the country tomorrow, bet you'll be pleased to see him after all this time?" when we didn't know he'd been away..
We also still get regular phone calls from debt collectors trying to find him. Sometimes it's just automated calls saying that he will be prosecuted if he doesn't respond; other times it's hard-case callers who get real nasty when we say he doesn't live here. Some of these calls have even gone to the kids' mobile phone numbers. I can't begin to fathom why or how this happens.
Stuff like that.
It's really so crazy and unbelievable, if you knew what sort of life we had originally....
