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[paul19510]

Hi JG. Thanks for the post.

I decided to buy the kids Dunkin' D this morning. I picked up a dozen and on my way to it I past my W's barn. I saw she was still in the barn yard doing work.

Its cold and gloomy here today. I picked up 2 cups of coffee just the way we like it. I stopped at the curb and asked for permission to enter. She agreed. I took 2 Doughnuts and the coffee. She appreciated the warm drink. She slept in her truck all night next to the stall waiting for the foal to come. nothing yet. I stayed off the topic of R. We visited and laughed about other stuff. We caught up about the kids and her parents health. I tried to excuse myself a couple of times, but she kept the convo going.

I see her differently now. She's is wounded. I don't think she meant to hurt me. its just the way things are. I petted the horses and they enjoyed seeing me too. they miss me. W saw that.

W asked me to intercede with D16 for her. I told her I could not. I did tell her I've gotten D16 to see a T to help her deal with what's happening. I need to let W and D sort it out. She was a little short with me that I would not intercede, but I told her these things can't be pushed. Its interesting to see that W wants her space, but doesn't understand giving space to D16. Interesting.

I took some of the barn trash to our house since its still "our" trash for the moment. I did slip a little at the end of the visit (almost 90 minutes). I told W that I'd been her H for almost half of my adult life and was working to understand how to be something else now. It choked me up to say this and she just looked angry. I smiled and wished her a good day and she returned the sentiment.