I guess this is a big learning for many of us. Yes a marriage should change you but it should make you better. A more complete stronger version of yourself because you are with someone who loves and supports the real you.

A good marriage should be like that right? That isn't just a romantic fantasy?

I find it interesting and sad that so many of us here didn't see how much we had lost of ourselves until it was shoved in our face in such a dramatic and hurtful way.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15