PM, you are exactly right. And I get it why he is frustrated. I would be, too. (Note -that doesn't mean I think that I am in the wrong here - I don't think I need to put his need to communicate over my need to be free of his spew.)
The problem as of late has been that if I do talk to my H, he frequently rejects/invalidates what I say, or uses it to manipulate me, or twists it to prove he is a victim and I am evil.
But if I don't talk to my H, then he makes up stories in his head (of course always with the most negative slant), lashes out at me for things I didn't even do or think, and blames me for all of it.
I am hoping that talking with a counselor present will help. Fingers crossed.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
