To Starsky - re. transparency and boundaries

[BrightFuture]

Angel, thanks for coming back to post your update and your thoughts. I’m sure this is very invaluable for all posters who are currently straggling through a reconciliation process. I’m not there yet, I hope I will be one day. And this is something I needed to hear, that all situations are different. I feel that I would be following the pattern you just described. And it is also good to hear that there was some backsliding in the process and you still made it to where you are right now. This is my biggest fear that I would backslide.

Starsky, I didn’t quite understand what you were trying to say in your post. I see a lot of women on this board who are standing for more than a year, a lot of them for two years. Yes, there is emotional and in most case the financial damage. It happens even if the stander gives up after 6 months or so.