Upwards - DB myself to happiness!

[Upwards]

Yeah, there's a section in DR that talks about family and friends. Most people just want you to be happy again and figure D is the fastest path to get there. Their intentions are good, but it's not always what we need. Just keep that in mind when talking to them. The IC is great.

Yeh they just want me to be happy & they've seen me get hurt so many times that they believe I'll be happier without H. They aren't forceful or anything, they just feel I need to leave him to it & focus on me right now I suppose, which they're dead right about!

Remember, the boundary is about protecting you....not about showing him what he's missing. It may be a side effect, but that's not the goal. And try not to mind read....there's no way to know what he's thinking.

Yeh I know, I'm doing it primarily for me & to protect myself.
He told me that it's all hit him since I started putting things in place to cut contact & that he's really finding it hard & hurting, me walking away has given him no option but to deal with the reality.