D2 I hope my words didn't come across as too harsh. please understand that is not my intention. But what are your goals with this? I can't imagine the pain what is happening, but I seems from your post like perhaps this is keeping you stuck. my 2 cents.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14