Wonka, I do offer words of affirmation but W is not open to accepting them. She’ll often refute my WOA, telling me why her, or her actions, weren’t good enough. I usually just follow with something like “Well, my comment is how I see it/feel about it” and leave it at that. Not sure if there’s much else I can do, except to not give up on her.
When I give out compliments and I encounter some people who appear very resistant to it, I ask them "Why can't you take a compliment?" in a soft voice. That usually stops them in their tracks and they recognize that they're resisting genuine compliments because of THEIR own discomfort. It isn't about you at all.
