I am just like in shock! I mean, wow. I don't even know what I think. I am flooded with internal questions. Is she pregnant? Are they trying? Is she going to have it? WTH? If they are going to have it, planning, did she just not want one with me? I mean I don't know what to think or feel. Like I said I am just in shock over it.

Now I just noticed this today, I will be checking tomorrow to see if those numbers change. But I guess it is just because this to me, changes things a bit or could. I don't know what to do or think, I mean this just happened, and I came here. I will digest this a bit I guess.

Well you want us to answer your questions or even her to do it...the questions are inside of you.
This is a forum that doesnt believe in D...that doesnt mean give up who you are does it?

Me, myself I have clear my deal breakers...if my W goes ahead with D because she is happy with another man, if she is gonna have kids with another man...thise are some of my deal breakers, then there, there is no negotiation with me... I will move on and have with another partner what I didnt had with her...simple as that...its called self respect... I can love a person, that doesnt mean that because I love a person, that person its entitled to do with my feelings whatever they want...

When we dont have self respect its easy to fall in the game of "I accept everything they do because I love them"
Many people in abussive and very toxic R do that and take the beats because they believe they love their partner...

You have to ask yourself and not us of her if you want a relationship like that... And also you have to ask yourself if there is a Relationship at all...

If you accept all she is doing and its not a deal breaker for you then keep working on yourself and you might go back with her... But I think you are being in denial now and you dont want to see the reality "because you are affraid"

The reality...she is with another person, and she seems to be looking for a baby with that person...do you have proof that this is true? Imagine that its absolutelly true...do you want that person with you or even if ot hurts do you prefer to D?

If I was married to a compulsive cheater having kids all over the place I deserve and own to myself respect and I will not continue in that R...that answer comes from inside me...
There is a difference between MLC, WAS and a partner who just doesn't want to be with you...
Its your choice now and you are in total use of your right of getting D or not...I will check inside of me and leaving my fears behind I will respect myself and analize what I am able to deal with and what I just dont want in my life...


When the student its ready, the teacher will appear...
Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me."
Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.