I applaud the positive interaction in regards to the children. Co-parenting is extremely hard in the best of situations and right now yours is...well....not the best. I do agree with Wonka about your wording, but at the same time you can't be second guessing the possible underlining perspective of what was said.
As for the counselor....My 2 cents. Research until you have three perspective choices. Send their info to your husband and let him choose one out of the three. That way you both have a say in the process, both of your expectations in a counselor can be respected, and it is a co-choice. However it works out....The kids are #1 and this is one item that needs you both working together on.
