wife denies the affair

[MrBond]

"Let me just say this I just discovered this A."

Yes we all read that.

"I was dbing the day she dropped the bomb."

Which was only a few weeks ago. It wasn't until she was leaving that "suddenly" you learned what you were doing was wrong.

" I believe this A may have been going on before the D was dropped ."

And your bad behavior was going on before the A.

"I thought something was up but couldn't put my finger on it. I accidentally came across the A. I understand my wrong doings and I'm addressing them for me. "

This is where you are wrong. In your case, you really do need to address them for your W and ESPECIALLY for your D. Not you. Everything you've done in your last M and now has been to satisfy YOUR needs and not those of others.

"Daughter is from affair. W still wants to pick her up and help with her care while we're divorced."

Then I feel sorry for your D. She has to live with the fact that she was part of a relationship that destroyed a M. Sounds harsh, but it's true. That's why if you're going to stop drinking and carousing, then you do it for her, not you.