Mel, look deeper.

I'm going to ask a question that will sting.

Are you happy because the 2 of you were able to work through something and come to middle ground or because you got what you wanted?

From the outside it appears that after asking for his input you rejected out of hand his suggestion without even talking to the person to find out what he/she could do.

Is this a repeat of old patterns in your R?

Let go of some of that control, girl. Share the load.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss