The problem Mr. Bond is that that kind of advice seeks to get action from a person that DFE has nop control over. Remember one of the premises of DBing is improving yourself as there's nothing you can do or say that can change another person. It is the change in you that will bring about a change in the other person.
DFE, have you read the book about how to save your marriage without talking about it (Love and Stosny)? that helped me a lot. Once I learned how to respond we fought a lot less.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
