That's always a vague comment when people say that. There are lots of reasons why people can't seem to get their message across. I don't see that in your H's case.
"It seems I say one thing and he hears another. He has a lot of anger towards me. He feels I have controlled his life but I don't see it that way."
That's the problem right there. He holds you accountable for his happiness which is neither warranted or fair. You can't be in charge of how happy he is. No one can be the sole source of someone else's happiness. It seems like he's blaming you because he can't seem to take any personal responsibility for his own actions.
He needs to get himself right by taking responsibility and getting rid of perceived resentments that he may have with you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
