For Scorp7...since your thread is locked.

[Barrybran]

Scorp, I understand your fear. It's natural. Life isn't panning out how you'd like and you want to rush in and fix things. This is why you're here though. You've been controlling, you've not listened, you've not made your wife's needs and wants a high enough priority. I'm in the same boat so I'd like to think I can at least help you with this part. You have chosen this path but you can't rush it. As said in DB, you need to give a course of action a reasonable amount of time to work and this is no different. It will be painful, you will have urges to hurry your wife up but you must not give in. Stay strong, be patient. As I said in my earlier post, you have told your wife you won't agree to terms on anything until you have a satisfactory parenting plan in place. She's heard you, Scorp. She knows your terms. She will bring it up again but you cannot rush her. She can't get her hands on that money until she works with you. This is the action you've chosen so see it through. Be strong.

In the meantime, keep in touch with your kids, be nice and charming to your wife, let your wife see your kids enjoy spending time with you, even without her, and do not bring up the parenting plan.

Also, Drew's message is spot on. Short, simple, to the point, no BS.

If you feel you've slipped back it might be a good time to crack out DB again to refresh your memory on a few things.