All of the things I was doing, whether it was sexually, music, work, etc, all were greatly effected by my insecurity. I needed to work on myself and look inward to find happiness rather than all of these external things I was looking for. Now that I know that I've made a ton of progress so I don't see myself making the same mistakes again in the future.
Scorp...right now you are at the beginning.
It is really easy to slip back into old patterns, even after the "changes" actually become natural for you (which they haven't yet).
Originally Posted By: Scorp
The communication with my W wasn't very good. We talked a lot, or I should say I talked a lot, but we weren't really honest with each other. I also need to learn to be a much better listener for sure.
That is evidenced by this...
Originally Posted By: Scorp
Uh, yeah, I guess it did. Not sure what the deal is here. If the idea is that I'm not telling everything then I guess I'm done here. Pretty sad that I seek help and then be accused of lying or withholding info. Good stuff. Very thankful for those that have helped out, it was very much appreciated.
You wrote that yesterday.
You were angry and defensive and ready to walk away from the process. As well as a little sarcastic.
Neither your listening or your communication was very good here and I believe that is a good example of how you were in the past.
So keep working at it. Keep changing. Listen to the people here instead of trying to argue and explain yourself so much...
Look at the things that are said to you as if they are being said to someone else and see if your desire to explain or argue diminishes.
Sometimes we have to step back from the situation in order to see it more clearly.
Hey Drew...excellent correction
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
