The following text exchanged happened: H: so I guess not (referring to him asking if it's okay if he comes to get the dog. I did not respond) Me: You can come and get her if you want. I did not respond because I wasn't sure what to say. The lake has bad associations for me. Our marriage vows were broken and those trips to the lake played a major role in that. It brings up a lot of emotions for me. ..and that you can't see how it would affect me hurts, as well. My emotions are my problem, I'm just letting you know where I'm coming from. H: I'm sorry, I was unhappy and we discussed it on a few occasions over the years but it didn't seem important to you. I have given up/lost everything. I don't even have a bed... I'm sorry this causes you pain, it hasn't been easy for me either. Me: if I understood how important it was to you, I would have gladly gone. I didn't understand. H: it seems there were several things that I deemed important, but you did not. I'm not pointing fingers because I did the same thing. I'm not coming to get the dog.
Do I let it end there? He's angry/agitated/defensive and I'm hurt.
What do I do, guys???
Me: 39 H: 45 Second marriage for both H left 12/2013 M:4 T:5.5
