So my H asked if I wanted to find someone (counselor wise) or if he should. I said I can get some recommendations. He said, "OK, I've asked for recommendations from my lawyer. You can get some recommendations and we will see if any overlap."
A while later, he sent me the name of someone his L recommended. It's a woman who is a CFI and does the parenting classes that are required by the court in every D case in our county. I realized that we are not on the same page here (shocking, right?)
M: Thanks for forwarding the info from your lawyer. I want to make sure we are on the same page with this. What I had in mind was not someone who will tell us what to do with our kids, but who will help us to cut through the BS so that we can have rational, respectful discussions about these things. I think that would help make this whole process a lot less contentious and less expensive to boot. Let me know your thoughts.
H: My request to my lawyer was for a counselor "to try to improve our co-parenting relationship." [NAME] was her recommendation. You've made it clear that all legal issues are to be run through your lawyers so that's how we'll handle that. My goal here is to try to best manage the co-parenting relationship in light of the animosity created by that process.
AAAAAAAAGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!!
Someday, will I look back at this and laugh??
Maybe someone else can read this in a different way. I see a lot of P/A in there, and blame, and he is setting it up so that he looks like a reasonable person without having to DO anything. He has also set it up so that I am cornered in my response. And, he ignored what I said to boot.
I am leaning toward responding by more or less repeating (but maybe in a different way so it doesn't come across as smart ass) what I said before, and asking directly if he is willing to do that, rather than asking for his thoughts.
Any insight or advice would be appreciated.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
