Thanks UR. Yes, W’s past and our one time incident prior to BD does seem to be driving much of this, so I do need to be careful not to offend her or send her running back into hiding.
Wonka, I do offer words of affirmation but W is not open to accepting them. She’ll often refute my WOA, telling me why her, or her actions, weren’t good enough. I usually just follow with something like “Well, my comment is how I see it/feel about it” and leave it at that. Not sure if there’s much else I can do, except to not give up on her.
Her self-esteem is rather low, but it seems only she can fix this.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
