If thats not a HUGE step forward then nothing is! You need to celebrate that action- Thats a statement!
You go at your own pace. Ive told my mother (Exact words)" Do not do ANYTHING to sabotage my chances at R. I understand the feeling that you want to confront her but I swear to god that if I R and you ever do anything to make her uncomfortable you will not see my family or I again"
As michelle says in the book- Your family, friends and paid support team will all want you to "move on" because they dont want to see you in pain. There comes a point thou that after you CLEARLY state your desire to R that if they continue to push in a different direction - you need to distance.
Only YOU know what YOU want. You are 10000000% accurate that children are so much better off when there parents are in a loving married relationship. Your wife isnt there yet and you cant influence her.
How do we work on the self confidence?????? That aspect needs to be completely divorced from your wife (pun intended). I know I just read a list of achievements on a guy named Maritimers thread that looked pretty god damn impressive.
If your current definition of "success" is "Getting my family back" you need to change that first. NOT because it will/wont happen, but simply because its W decision....and you have 0 control.
Adopt a newby........youve come a long way sir and your on a very solid path :)Its time to help a bomb battered male soul survive hell............hopefully as well as you have after ONLY 14 months
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
