90 minutes is a loooooooooong talk. Please remember there is nothing you can say right now that will bring her back. If she wants to talk again about the R - do so......but dont you initiate.
Its going to be a real wild ride. Focus your time and energies over things in your circle of control- your W is not one of them at this time.
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13