I am h's w#2. Possibly STB xw#2. Things were awkward at first with w1. Now (As mentioned above) she and I actually help each other out. She even occasionally babysit s for me. She and I spend more tune attending step kid stuff than h does. 2x a year we have a family dinner for the stepkids b days.
I was not an OW. I can't imagine being this evolved if H starts wanting me to be around OW. I guess my point is we don't know what the future holds so we just have to plan for today.
Thanks Julie. You are right that we don't know what the future holds. For some reason, I can picture being civil if my H remarried someone other than OW. There is just something about the OW and how my H treated me during the A that prevents me from even contemplating being civil with the OW, let alone dealing with her at all in my life.
But I don't have to worry about any of that today. I just need to focus on myself and finding my path. H has his own (I will keep repeating this over and over until I get it)!
