Big events, well, for a while I had the " don't bring OW anywhere near me" for a while. I lost that battle after they got married. So, she is there for graduations, dance recitals, and we will have had a meal after these events once, all of is, including OW.
Not something I suggest for everyone, the meals anyways. It took me a long time until I would even meet her.
Gabbysmom - You really are an inspiration. I hope that I am able to get to this point somewhere done the road.
