Well I underestand you love this lady...but you cant fight her choice, hmmm actually its not a choice, she is lesbian so basically thats something that its not gonna change.... Unless you are willing to become a woman...
Anyway just relax, and spend time with the kids, it hurts but look, she at least will be happy!! Focus on yourself and just realize that its not always about us... If she is lesbian probably all this past years were very very hard for her...
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
so basically thats something that its not gonna change.... Unless you are willing to become a woman...