3boyz, I am curious whether you have spoken with a child Psych about your sitch at all. I think that we, as mothers, tend to think we know what is best for our kids. And I think that we do, for the most part. But, I know I have to admit that as much as I try, in this crazy emotional situation, I am not sure I can entirely separate my desires from the best interest of my kids. I did speak with someone right around BD, but now that we are discussing permanent plans, I am going to see another expert who can help me to make the right decisions. What I am wondering about in your case is the family time - I wonder if that is confusing your boys and that is making this harder on them. I'm not saying it is, I am no expert. Just saying it's something I would want to ask about. In fact, I will likely ask that question myself. First I wanted family time because I was trying to get H back. Now I don't want to be around him, but he wants it for the stated reason that the kids should see we get along (but I think it's really because he thinks that the kids won't be as mad at him if they think I like him). Anyway, none of that matters other than what is best for them, which is why I think it's good to have a neutral opinion from someone who is familiar with this stuff.
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I have not met with a child psych yet about the kids. I have discussed some things with my C. I fully intend to meet with a child psych if things continue to proceed towards a D. I honestly want to do what is best for the kids. I know that my H will agree to attend.
