You have your truth, your H has his, neither has to be wrong. His is just as real to him as yours is to you. It's what you each see from your vantage point with the limited knowledge you both have.
Yes, this is a tough one for me. From what he has told me so far, H's view on this whole thing is that the kids will be perfectly fine. Yeah, they might find it hard to adjust, but they will be happier because he will be happier. Also, from what he has told me, the kids don't cry to him much about this like they do to me.
So, I have the tendency to go into things with this background and already discrediting H's view. I will need to reread this and remind myself to be open and listen and be accepting that his reality is his reality. And if he continues to say things like "the kids will be happy if I am happy," hopefully the C will inject a little reality there.
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What is your biggest fear about the counseling?
I am still thinking on this one, but I think it is that feeling I had when we were in MC a few years ago (and during much of the M) . . . feeling small and insignificant.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
