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[tbm4evr]

Thanks nit84. I agree with everything you said. I'm having a tough time because W wants me to move out but I'm not. So on one hand I feel like I should live here like "I'm not here" for my W. But yesterday W cooks me dinner, washes and folds my laundry, etc...and now I'm supposed to "detach" ...do I tell her not to cook and do my laundry? ..just doesn't make sense to me. We do have kids so sometimes all sit together for family dinners. This morning I did not do my morning routine with getting her coffee etc and it felt odd when she stills cooks dinner and does my laundry for eg. Sandi says to live like roomates but I don't think my roomate would wash my dirty clothes ...trying to figure this all out - how do I balance things in my sitch? I respect sandi/vets advice here ...yours too...i read other posts too to see how it may help in my sitch.