I think he is going through some sort of personal " get my balls back" phase ( not because you took them, just because that's how he feels).
I agree 100%. I think I need to try to ride it out without raising his hackles too much (since that will only egg him on), and hope he chills out. That's why, thus far, I have let him do his thing and have STFU even when my tongue was bleeding from biting it.
I think he will definitely get tired of being an a-hole. The problem is, his default then is P/A. For example, the "peace" email he sent me was supposedly his "nice," but it included a bunch of P/A stuff - accusations, insults, blame.
I sure hope that at some point he will figure this stuff out, but I highly doubt it, so I hope that at least at some point I won't be so emotional about it and I'll be able to roll my eyes and move on.
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You will agree on things, and others you will disagree on. And sometimes, if it doesn't harm the kids, you got to let him win one.
Yes. I truly haven't said boo about anything other than the field trip, because I felt very strongly about that. The boundary in my head is to STFU unless it's really important. I didn't used to do that. Perhaps at some point my H will recognize it.
It is amazing how much more sane I am after yoga and TKD (especially on non-H TKD nights.)
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
