This whole situation is just so bizarre. I keep thinking that the issues W and I have could be resolved so easily if only she would talk to me half as honestly as she does to her girlfriends.

SALT AND SUGAR

What that means? Lets see if you are able to see this:
Imagine your neighboor doing a bbq and he has no salt, but she has sugar... Well she has never spoken with you so she doesnt know you, she is thinking hmmm I need salt but I have no salt at home and the supermarket its too far, she doesnt even think about you because you are not in her mind...so she decides that she is going to cook with sugar instead....well its her choice right?

Now...you always had salt at home but you dont knock on her door everyday to tell her: HEY I HAVE SALT IN CASE YOU EVER NEED IT...

If she needs salt she will knock your door and do whatever she needs to do to get salt...if she chooses one day to come for salt and you tell her no and made fun of her for cooking a bbq with sugar she is not going to feel safe asking you for salt...

So this is kind of the same...you have to let her come to talk to you, she has to feel safe talking to you... If she doesnt feel safe she is not gonna come...let her work on her own stuff at her own pace, meanwhile you keep doing BBQs and using salt wink only that way youll grow chances that she will ask you for salt again wink

When the student its ready, the teacher will appear...
Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me."
Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.