Upwards - DB myself to happiness!

[Upwards]

ye21 - I agree, we have to keep carrying on with our lives and make the best of it. I know my H certainly isn't happy, there is no point in us both being miserable. I have no idea if my H will come back but I do suspect he will eventually, either way I have no intention of putting my life on hold for him any longer.
Your doing great by the sounds of things keep going!

labug - I'm going to look into those things now, thank you very much for that