For Scorp7...since your thread is locked.

[ericmsant2]

Scorp7

I am not trying to attack you and I’m sorry you are taking it that way. As Cat said, I am trying to gain a better understanding of you sitch, you and your W. As many people have said, it seems odd (although not impossible) that your W kidnapped the kids based on what you have written…so I keep probing to see if there is something else that was going on.

So you have admitted…..

I took my W for granted! In the worst ways possible. She is a pleaser and for her to try to do everything to please me and for me to react as though she wasn't enough that would be horrible for her.

Lord know I get this ^^^ many of us did the same thing or were married to people that were similar.

Now…taking her for “granted” could mean a lot of different things…

So to gain a better understanding I have a few more questions…

I was constantly pushing for more, never seemed to really be happy or satisfied with the life we had.

Pushing for more of what? Money, material things, sex, all of the above? What exactly were you pushing for?

I wasn't much fun to be around a lot of the time.

Did you sit and mope, did you watch porn, did you ignore her and the kids – why were you not fun to be around? What did you do that makes you say this?

she did see other women get far too friendly with me when I played shows. I didn't encourage that but I should have done more to discourage it for sure. I always assured her she was the only one for me and that the shows were just a show but it still bothered her I'm sure.

Honestly, did you flirt with the other women to feed your own insecurity? How friendly did these women get? Did she see someone make out with you? Go down on you? I am trying to figure out how bad was it? This may explain what your W may really be feeling. Did she feel used? You mention below that you were more adventurous in your sex life than you W. Did you push her to do things she didn’t want to do? Were you more concerned about you getting off than her? Once again, how bad was it? From where I sit, I could see that sex, flirt, etc. could have played a huge part is how she feels and why she did what she did.

You also mentioned that if her parent found out about your sex life that it would not have gone over well with them. To me, that is a red flag. I am not judging you, hell personally, I can be quite freaky but I am trying to understand if maybe….just maybe…your W felt used sexually. Could that be the case?

I am trying to help you scorp7…