As with most of our situations, I found myself devastated a few months back (and still am) when my W hit me with "I don't love you anymore" followed by the "D" bomb. I immediately sought out all the help and information I could and DB and DR have been a great help. I quickly learned that though my situation fit so many categories, the most dominant was the "WAS" syndrome. Fully convinced and determined to end our M my W took on this evil personality and become enraged with every step and decision of the process. She told me "IDLYA" one day, two days later I was out of the house, two weeks later I was hit with the "D" papers and within a month I was bullied into signing the papers. She has resisted and even gotten very ugly with any attempt to reconnect. I finally took the 180. I signed the papers, I was not willing to drag it out and turn it completely ugly thus losing any chance of us reconciling. Everyone who knows only knows what little she leads them to believe and now all hate me. There is no one rooting for us and worse her mom and only true friend hates me with a passion. Nonetheless, I have applied what I have learned from DB/DR. And have seen very small and slow changes, given a set back here and there. It has only been a couple months and only about two weeks since signing the papers.
My question to anyone out there is... Recently (via e-mail) she asked me to re-sign one of the documents from the decree as it needed to by notarized. I took the opportunity to put in my "2 cents" about our marriage and got a response that she is "not happy" that our marriage failed. So I responded by asking if she'd be willing to read "something" and she said it would only be fair that she did, so yes... So now I'm wondering... Do I give her the DB book? Or would this just put her back on the defensive again just by reading the title as she is adamant that "D" is what she wants? Top of that, she would now know what I have been doing and intend to do further. I just don't know what her reaction may be and if I should actually give her the book.
