Thank you Breakdown, your posts always help me so much.
You're welcome. Hopefully you can learn from my (other others') mistakes, and get thru it a little less scathed.
Originally Posted By: Upwards
My IC has told me to do the NC and even if I waiver when having a bad day and end up contacting, dont throw the towel in just get back to it - so that's what i'm going to do instead of beating myself up if I do end up contacting him at some point.
Yeah, chances are you will slip at times...just be good to yourself, do the best you can, and protect your heart.
Originally Posted By: Upwards
He's just emailed me saying how sorry he is & if I need anything to let him know, he's making promises of dealing with his fears and has booked to see his counselor on Monday so maybe its given him a kick up the bum too - either way that isn't my problem to think about!
Your attitude is great.....but be prepared for the possibility of much spew. I've seen it with my XW for a long time. You want them to figure their crap out and make some decisions about themselves, but that is really the LAST thing they want to do. So before they get there, they will try everything else they can think of to get you back where they want you.
