The problem is my wife's BD is on the Saturday we leave. Pretty sure everyone's advice would be no card, no gift, nothing, but just wanted some advice? If we speak I will say Happy Birthday, but if I am GAL and moving on, I don't need to be providing BD Cards and gifts. Pretty sure that will just aggravate her.
I would agree with this ^^^, esp. considering you think it will only aggravate her. Other way to go (and this is what I did in my own sitch) is a "Shoebox" type (funny) card, with something practical like a $15 Starbucks gift card or something in it, and just a handwritten "Happy Birthday, Devaste" (no "Love" or anything) in it.
Either one is fine, I think. Just nothing overboard.
Starsky, who for once isn't on the hard-ass side of this one
