I'm not sure how I can do that with 3 kids but I have got to let go and move on.
Work at it everyday. Unfortunately it won't be fast or painless but it is doable.
I like to think of moving forward rather than moving on. Subtle difference, yes, but for me moving on has the ring of defeat, moving forward connotes creating a new life for you, becoming the person you are meant to be.
k_g wrote a great post with wonderful suggestions here
Have you read her threads? She was in a very similar place, with 3 small kids one a newborn.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
