Thanks for the responses and support, I really appreciate all the posts as I wobble back to being OK again.
You know Ur - I really do not care any more how he perceives me. I did. I desperately wanted, even needed to be seen by him as a 'good person' Now, frankly his opinion is worth jacksh*t to me, to put is crudely. And I mean it, not bravado.
My xh wanted to be 'friends' back this last summer. I can be civil, but he isn't my friend because I do not want someone like that as a friend.
I do not get the financial screwing over - my xh is in a relationship with a woman with a good job, he got a good financial settlement, and still works part time . . . go figure. Is it their way of asserting their importance in the world/our lives? Who knows, and who cares. It would be nice if it stopped, but I suspect it isn't going to this side of the grave. Although I should be very very peeved to arrive at the pearly gates and find a big bill waiting for me from xh!
