GA,
The "label" doesn't really matter, but what you do does. You would follow the db principles for both mlc and was. His conversations sounds like he's got some mlc issues going on, as well as the ow is in the picture. I do hope that you and your h are practicing safe sex because you just don't for sure what he's been up to and w/whom.

Treat him w/kindness and to be perfectly honest, there is no right or wrong way when dealing w/someone who is acting out. You have to try different things and if something isn't working, try something different.

Dig deeper for patience and keep the focus on you.


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.