All of the posters have raised very valid concerns and questions.
Now, I am going to talk here as if you were a close friend of mine IRL (in real life).
Scorp,
Eric wrote:
OR you can go for FULL custody.
Have you ever thought of this? After reading some recent posts with more and more additional information, I'm slowly coming to the conclusion that you WILL most likely come ahead of your W if you go for the full custody. Here's why:
1) According to you, you live in a nice neighborhood that is not crime ridden 2) You have the house and probably can afford to buy out your W 3) You have a full-time job that allows you to support the three of you financially in the family house 4) Your neighborhood is within a good school district and the kids know their friends from that school 5) Your W just upped and "kidnapped" the kids AWAY from their own home, their school, their friends
Let W move closer to your province if she wants to spend time with the kids! A change of perspective produces a different set of possibilities for you. See?
What do you think?
Scorp, man....^^^ that right there is real stuff delivered on a GOLD platter for you. We've talked and talked about your fears holding you back because you just want to be the "nice guy" here. Who are the real losers? The kids, because of your ill conceived choices which by the way is based on imaginary fears, will not have a nice house to live in, grow up in a good neighborhood, have a solid educational foundation for adulthood, etc....ALL FOR WHAT?? Because you were too f*cking scared of a woman who lives 4 HOURS AWAY!
Doesn't that sound kinda silly to you at all, right?
Not getting through to you here?
Ok.
You're an idiot! You can't be serious in not going after FULL custody. What you need is to face head on the illusion behind the green curtain that is the Oz which is your W. Face it and then you'll earn the "Bravery" medal for your kids. Roar like a true LION. Not a yelp from a tiny teensy Yorkie newborn pup.
Right?
Which is the BETTER choice for YOUR kids? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Please keep in mind that this is what I would have said to a close friend after several supportive, neutral discussions getting no where...then pulling no punches with my friend with straight talk.
