For Scorp7...since your thread is locked.

[Scorp7]

Ok, here is what I have ready to send to my W:

Are you willing to consider moving back to the Scorp's City area?

In response to your questions:

1) If there is a shared parenting arrangement agreed to I would go to the trouble of relocating to the W's Home Town area.

2) I would move as soon as we agreed on a shared parenting plan which splits time and custody with our kids 50/50.

3, 4) While it would take a lot of work to make happen and cooperation from Scorp's Company, I expect to work from home on a full time basis for Scorp's Company and would maintain my current position.

5) I understand that my work schedule would remain essentially the same, Monday to Friday, 40 hours per week. I would hire child care to assist with caring for the kids while I am working.

6) I may need to return to Scorp's City once or twice per month and would do so during the time the kids are with you.

It is not my preference to relocate to W's Province as all of my extended family and friends support system as well as my job is in Scorp's Province. Also, it will take considerable work and personal sacrifices for me to relocate to W's Province. However, if you are prepared to co-parent with me in W's Province, then I am prepared to work with my employer to make relocation to W's Province happen.

End of message.

Here is my W's original message from a couple of days ago:


You have presented the idea of sharing the care of the kids on an equal basis. I have a few questions that would help me to effectively discuss the proposal with you, such as:

1. Are you planning on moving to the W's Home Town area?

2. What does your timeline look like?

3. What about work?

4. Would you be working remotely for Scorp's Company? or would you be trying to find employment here?

5. What would your work schedule be like?

6. How often would you have to go to Scorp's City?

I did ask my L about asking my W if she would move back to my province. Here response was "Yes it would have been but it seems like you have already floated the idea of you coming out there and she responded to that.........You could certainly say at the beginning that your preference would be for her to move back to your province etc etc."